Inspiration #3: How Idealism Keeps Us Sick

It was a once-in-a-lifetime experience with my therapist colleague, and this awareness is another one of the reasons why. Ideals can play an important role in guiding our lives. At the same time, ideals can keep us crippled and dysfunctional. I see people-me included–hiding behind relationship ideals when we don’t want to admit our pain or inability to resolve…

The Right-and-Wrong Trap

When we speak from our hearts, there is no right and wrong. If I tell someone else she is wrong, I am probably either not hearing what she is saying or I am not accepting it. Instead, I am judging, externalizing, or defending. When I tell someone else he is wrong, it is usually to…