It was a once-in-a-lifetime experience with my therapist colleague, and this awareness is another one of the reasons why.
Ideals can play an important role in guiding our lives. At the same time, ideals can keep us crippled and dysfunctional. I see people-me included–hiding behind relationship ideals when we don’t want to admit our pain or inability to resolve differences. We hold ideals up as banners for action when we are unsure of ourselves and need justification for what we do. We use ideals to impassion and motivate us when it doesn’t come spontaneously from within. Even when we lack a reason for being, we can adopt a fill-in ideal.
* Own your own stuff.
* Don’t self-flagellate.
* Don’t dump on others.
I know, to be real is easier said than done. Yet, if we can sucker up to who and how we are and then move on, we have broken the spell of disconnectedness, both from self and others. Even more so, we have created an oasis of consciousness-idealism’s kryptonite. As like begets like, we are sure to encourage more awakening around us.
Tamarack,
I inadvertently came across your website. As a writer myself, I am very much enjoying it. I have not had the chance to explore much of it, but just reading this latest blog post leaves me wanting more. I believe you would be a very interesting, and life-changing person to meet and converse with. Thank you for sharing.
Tracy Verdev